Beauty and innocence
What constitutes the greatest charm in society is the little delicacies of a truly well bread and manners person. Someone said that 'good manners are nothing else than beauty and innocence'. Polite language is pleasant to the ear and soothing to the heart, while rough words are product of ill-temper.
Many woman say these days that they are perfectly frank and outspoken and do not shy away from words. Upon the result of frankness, they will insult and be rude to others. This does not defend bad manners, but insecurities and selfishness.
Hearty care for all
Truly, the way you make yourself pleasing to others is when you show you care for them. Let everyone, therefore see that you care for them. It does not have to be big things, but small gestures of affection. Small courtesies, giving others priority in every little enjoyment, in every small situation.
A good t rule of a good manners will be the unselfish consideration of others- politeness.
When you start acquiring a habit of politeness it will become more and more familiar. Eventually sit in you with ease and soon, with elegance, thus to avoid harsh judgements or easy irritation.
This does not only applies for social situations, but everyone around, even at home. If you wish to be a well-mannered person, you need to carry good manners with you everywhere you go.
Calmness and modest simplicity in every action
Noble simplicity of purpose and calm self-possession must be running through all you do, say or think. Unless you exercise it among all persons, it will never be part of yourself. Let it come through every thought and it will show forth in every action.
Politeness is the most excellent good quality in a person. Politeness is not hypocrisy and smiling upon a victim. Politeness is kindness and courtesy. It comprehends good will through easy deportment and good humour. This is done by cultivation of kind and loving feelings. A little consideration for the feelings of those we love and cherish, will make a big difference.
Speak respectfully to parents, brothers, sisters, friends, neighbours and strangers. Not because you want to be approved or admired, but because it it right in itself. We need to try and be polite without thinking of others judgement of it. Artificial manners are very easy seen through. Conversing in a loud tone, laugh loudly and dashing bravuras, bragging on your successes, using slang words and phrases is not a polite and fascinating manner. Anyone with good sense will disapprove such behaviour. Actually, to a person of real refinement such behaviour is absolutely disgusting.
On the other side, taking it to extreme; whispering, moving terribly slowly, cry and be easily moved to tears this sounds as an absurd itself too. Everyone will avoid such person as well.
And finally, self-respect
Self-respect and respect for others will be our best defence. Without self-respect we become awkward. We need to make our manner easy and let it not become arrogance. Sarcasm is also to be avoided. It is rude. Try to be confident and amuse with courtesy.
Carry yourself with ease and delicacy.
Never gesticulate when conversing. Open conversation with a smile. Exclamations are also in bad taste. You can express your suppose by "Good gracious" or "Mercy" or "Dear me". Let your movements be easy and flexible. Let your demander be marked with modesty and simplicity.
We should try to talk cautiously with calculated words with easy articulation. Let our conversation be intellectual, graceful, discreet and tasteful. Polite.
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